WARNING!!! This is the story of giving birth to James so if you are not into that kind of thing I probably suggest you don't read it. I do throw in a few words like membranes, amniotic sac, stitch, and pain so if you can't even handle that then don't read on, or skip ahead to the pictures. :O)
As I sit here recalling James's BIRTHday there are parts that seem a little hazy. Maybe it was how quickly the labor and delivery went, maybe it is my current state of sleep deprivation, maybe both but I will do my best to share the exciting day that James joined our family.
It was Monday morning, April 2nd (my projected due date), and not too much was happening. The week leading up to this day I was extremely uncomfortable and excited to meet my new little guy, but Charlie, Dan, and I had all contracted hand,foot, and mouth disease and I was no longer anxious to have my newborn out and exposed to such an awful virus! I figured every day he stays inside, the better chance he has of not contracting it. So I suddenly became OK with being 9 months pregnant. But by that Monday morning we were doing a little better, my Mom and sister were in town and it seemed like a good day to get things going. Dan and I went to my appointment that morning and my doctor stripped my membranes saying that it would only help things along if my body was ready. So the day went on with no change so I thought maybe my body wasn't ready yet. So we took advantage of our still free day. My Mom, sister and I decided to go out to lunch at one of my favorite spots -

The Back Porch. I LOVE this place. Not necessarily for the food (although it is quite tasty) but because it is RIGHT on the beach. You sit overlooking the beautiful white beaches and crystal clear water of the emerald coast while enjoying yummy food and good company. I think the waiter's eyes bugged out of his head a little when he asked my due date and found out it was that day. He kept glancing at my belly and no joke was slightly leaning back like I was going to explode all over him at any moment. Yeah, he was just a little weird.
After that I really can't remember what filled the rest of that day. I think we may have taken naps, but I can't remember. I do remember during dinner (Taco night - YUM!) I noticed my contractions were starting to get a little stronger and I announced that I was pretty sure I was starting labor. It definitely wasn't a big deal yet and I thought I still had the entire night of laboring ahead of me. I thought that maybe we might have a baby tomorrow morning sometime. The evening continued as normal. With Charlie's usual bedtime routine with a few more contractions thrown in there, but no big deal. The contractions notched up just a tad so I took a shower and finished packing my hospital bag. Then Dan went to bed to get some rest while my Mom, sister and I sat down to watch the most recent twilight movie. (I don't know why we thought that was a good idea to watch with a woman in labor in the room.) Luckily, I never got to the gruesome parts of the movie that I later heard of. I still haven't finished the movie yet. It just didn't capture my attention, but that could be because labor was steadily intensifying during it. Finally I went up stairs to get something and Dan timed my contractions and they were about 2-3 minutes apart or less. He was suddenly very anxious to get to the hospital. I on the other hand, though getting a tiny bit more uncomfortable, wasn't so sure we needed to yet. I didn't want to sit in the hospital for hours upon on hours. But Dan won out and seeing him so anxious was cute so we went for it. My mom stayed to finish the movie with Victoria and we made the 4 minute drive down the street to the hospital.
It turns out that it was a good time to go. I was a 6 and almost 7 when we got there which blew my mind because I remembered being WAY more miserable at that point with Charlie. As soon as I got there labor kicked into gear and the next hour and a half were filled with working through contractions and trying to get through paperwork and get that darn IV into my arm. Trust me, DARN is not the word that went through my mind each of the 6 tries and 3 medical professionals it took to get my IV in. Each one ended with a blown blood vessel and an instant hematoma. NO FUN! Finally after a little over an hour they got it in. It took so long because they only attempted between contractions. It is not fun to be having a contraction AND having a needle digging in your arm.

By this point I was in a LOT of pain. I started to really freak out because I still thought I had hours ahead of me and I felt like I couldn't do it anymore. Dan was amazing; supporting me through each and every contraction and coaching me to relax and breath all the way through. My Mom resumed her same job as she did when Charlie was born - counting. I know it probably got monotonous for everyone, but it really helped! The sweet nurse that was able to get my IV in (bless her) was the only other person in the room and she said she thought I was almost there. I didn't believe her because we hadn't even been in the hospital two hours yet. She checked me and low and behold I was a 9 and totally effaced. She got on the phone with the doctor right then (who thankfully happens to live in the neighbor hood behind us - remember that 4 minute drive? yeah, AWESOME!).
As she updated the doctor on the phone I had a strange sensation and a lot of pain. I felt like the baby was coming out, I wasn't even pushing. I started to yell that he was coming out and both Dan and my Mom started freaking out and the whole room was suddenly full and busy and doctor Graham said she was on her way. But the sensation was very strange, not like a baby and I was in so much pain and so confused and freaking out because I had no idea what was sliding out. It turns out that it was the amniotic sac. My water still had not broken and it was still intact, but on its way out anyway. The nurse later described it to me as being like squeezing a deflating balloon in half and it bulges on both ends as it tries to compensate for the lost space. Well that is what what happened with the amniotic sac. But no one broke it like I thought they would because they were trying to prevent me from having the baby any faster than I was. I suddenly found myself pushing against the pleadings of EVERYONE around me. But it was time. My body knew it was time and I had ZERO control over it. It hurt so bad and all I wanted to do was push. Luckily, Dr. Graham walked in, broke my sac and I was all ready set to push (officially) and have this baby. Pushing this time was MUCH more painful than it was with Charlie. I think because it happened so fast this time. Dr. Graham was amazing and really helped me focus. Dan was right there with me encouraging me. And besides the two of the them I was almost oblivious to all the people in the room. I couldn't tell you who was there or how many people there were, but I remember Dr. Graham's face and I remember Dan's face, and I remember
SO MUCH PAIN

...then suddenly...they are placing this baby on me...this perfect...sweet... baby boy...the room, the noise, the lights all faded into the background and I just held on to this perfect little angel. He looked at me and he held tight onto my finger and I was so in love. I couldn't believe it. It didn't seem real. It seemed too fast to be real, he seemed too perfect to be real. And nobody whisked him away to the warming table like they did with Charlie. They just left him in my arms with the two of us just looking at each other. I think I even asked if this was real and if he was real and I vaguely remember some chuckles. Slowly, the room came back in to focus as all the busy hands slowed and everyone was looking at him too. He was perfect. And at that moment my love grew. My love for Dan grew, my love for Charlie grew, and my love for this little baby felt like it had always been there as big and strong as ever. I was in awe.

That magical moment lingered and pleasantly eased me back into reality. Until the one stitch I needed was placed and I'll tell you that jolted me back to reality...and pain...pretty quickly. But the doctor kept telling me just to look at my baby as she finished the stitch. It was only one stitch, but it felt like heck and felt like it took forever. I just kept talking to and looking at my baby through the pain (that I thought was supposed to be over) and he helped to ease it. Someone asked what his name was and we said James. And I knew that was the right name.
Recovery was so fast this time. It was pretty fast with Charlie, but seemed faster this time. Sometimes I even forgot I had just had a baby until I would sit funny and my bruised tailbone would remind me. I did have one crazy case of the shakes. I felt like I was riding a bicycle with no tires over train tracks. It was so strange to be shaking so uncontrollably and so extreme. Luckily that didn't last long. My adrenaline just needed some kind of outlet after such a fast a furious delivery. He was born within two hours of getting to the hospital and within 15 minutes of the doctor's arrival. He was born 14 minutes after midnight making it an April 3rd birthday. I'd say that is a pretty good BIRTHday.

Now, James is two months old and life is busy, crazy, wonderful. He was a missing piece to our family. We are in love with him and I would say he is in love with us. Now that he is smiling it is easy to see that he is happy so much of the time. I look forward to watching him grow and watching his personality develop more. Any fears I once had about my ability to love another child or that my love for Charlie would have to decrease to be able to love another have vanished and seem silly now. I love this little boy, James.
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| Happy Mama |
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| Doting Daddy |
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| The Rigamaroll |
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| Proud Grandma |
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| Probably the best nurses anyone could ask for! |
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| He Loves bathtime (first bath) |